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Communication is one key to longevity
By Coach Colleen | November 21, 2006
Often we find each other but do not know how to be in relationship. No one taught us how to talk in non-confrontive, non-judgmental language. Here’s are two ways of confronting your true love.
Situation: Your love was very late picking you up and did NOT call to let you know.
Scenario 1. As soon as you see him/her, you say “You are such a jerk!”
Scenario 2. When they arrive, you tell them what impact their actions had on you. It would go something like this: “When you didn’t come when you said you would, I got mad, then I got worried, then I got madder. Next time I would like it if you would call me to let me know you were going to be late.” You are not excusing their behavior or condoning it. You are saying how it impacted you in non-blaming, non-judgmental language.
Which scenario would you be most receptive to? Which would make you want to engage in conversation rather than get into a yelling match or get the silent-treatment?
Something to ponder,
Coach Colleen
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