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Why Do We Ignore True Love?
By Coach Colleen | April 1, 2009
Hi there,
We all have a true love pattern within us. It is perfect for us. It is personal to us. Yet, we often ignore it.
We succumb to our humanness of using society’s pattern for true love, TV’s pattern for true love, Movie’s pattern for true love. We do this at the expense of our own true love pattern and our own happiness.
But, it doesn’t have to be so.
You can remove those ‘outsider’ patterns of true love. You can remove that second hand learning and discover your true love pattern.
By releasing your attachment to what ‘should’ be because someone else says that’s what should be you create space within yourself for self-discovery.
Love in imaginably unimaginable
Love is one of those concepts that grows within itself within you. Love is a mind-bender, and we try to define it using our mind. We create ‘The List.’ You know the list that set of characteristics that you want in your true love.
Love is imaginably unimaginable and is best imagined by your using your heart and your head. It takes both. What represents true love for you?
Is it a rainbow that is always there after a rain? Or, popcorn that is fresh, buttery and fun?
Imagine… Accept … Expect… And Find True Love
Coach Colleen
Author of the Total True Love System – A guidebook for Imagineering and finding your true love
Topics: Love |
April 4th, 2009 at 10:04 am
“Love is self-discovery”. No truer words have ever been spoken, or written. I think this is the key to this conversation. No one ever told us that. We are conditioned to accept the love that is and comes from the world around us. Fit into this pattern; Fit into that pattern, is all we assume one has to do. I so agree with you Colleen, and based on the premise that “Love is self discovery” we can ask ourselves, “Who do we want to discover ourselvews with?” That whould be the deciding question at the outset of all relationships. Who will challenge me to heights I can only imagine? Who can be that ’soft place to fall’ when the going gets tough? Who is that intellectual stimulant that keeps my mind sharp as we age? Who is the person that sparks my creative juices when my creative cupboard is bare? And finally, who is that person that allows whatever there is in me to love and be loved my way? Maybe then our choices would come from a place of OUR need to discover who we really are and not society’s construct that comes from a capitalist agenda to sell clothes and make-up. Loves sells, from this capitalist market economy, but when one removes the ‘capitalist market economy’ from the equation, the love element stands alone, and nothing else needed.
So based on the premise that “love is self discovery” I am saying that we would definately make some different choices about who we would spend our time with. Whether it is for one day or a lifetime. Then in the broader context of love in the community we choose to live in - Church - we can use this method [love is self discovery] to learn our triggers and fine points. But my question here is: From a position of choice and community, can we choose from where the love signal comes from, or do we include all contacts of ‘love’ in the “love is self doscovery” theory?
Somewhat jumbled thoughts on a beautiful Saturday morning, but definately need to re-think this some more!
May 4th, 2009 at 6:48 am
Hi Fay,
Thank you for your thoughts which too me seem well thought out. I want to address your question “From a position of choice and community, can we choose from where the love signal comes from, or do we include all contacts of ‘love’ in the “love is self doscovery” theory?”
There are many facets to your question. First, can we choose from where the love signal comes from? Within ourselves we can choose to come from that place of inner self-love. I like to use a symbol for that place. Symbols transport me out of my thinking mind into a place that joins my head and my heart.It is from this place that I can be at choice about what I want rather than be driven by second hand thoughts of love which arouse the hormones within.
What none of us can control is from where the love signal comes from in terms of the other person. Many of us try and be selective and rule out this person because they are too short, too tall, too something. Our mental list of characteristics we want in a true love is limiting our options because it is strictly a mental exercise.
If ignore the list and find the symbols that is your true love symbol for your irresistible definition of true love you expand your possibilities rather than limit them.
I would encourage you to remain open to all possibilities when looking for true love. True love often comes from unexpected places.
Cheers,
Coach Colleen