Anniversary Vacation Day 2 in Paradise - 10 Years to NOW!
By Coach Colleen | May 12, 2009
Served coffee in bed. Isn’t my true love wonderful?
We’ve taken many vacations over our 10 years together and we wanted this one to be different. We wanted to relax, get up late and just hang together.
NOT, we awoke to wave action muffled by riotous tropical birds. Red cardinals, yellow finches, love doves and some other bird that stands up like a penguin called us to action – get up this is paradise!
What to do? Where to go? It was time for another cup of coffee on the deck just watching the waves and settling into the heat. It was hot! 85 degrees and humid.
It was nearly noon when we started our explorations.
First we went to the famous black sand beach about ½ mile from our hideaway. But that is not what caught our eye – there was a huge sea turtle on the beach. As we approached from the opposite end of the beach, we watched it turn and scoot back into the water. Horrified at our loss, we just watched several turtles play in the surf. 
Good luck? Bad luck? Who Knows.
This might have been the best thing that could have happened to us because it prompted us to go snorkeling. The guide book said it was snorkelable if calm? (Is snorkelable even a word?) What does calm mean? We asked a local who said this was as good as it gets. So, in we went.
I put my fins and mask on and ducked my mask under the water to see Mar putting on her fins and backing into a turtle about 1 foot behind her. I did some sort of flailing motions getting her to stop and turn around and look. Amazing animals – just gliding through the water.
Our second day in Hawaii and we were swimming with sea turtles on a black sand beach!
I wonder if sea turtle mate for life. Do they celebrate anniversaries? Do they mark time? Do they live in any time except the now?
Being in the NOW, in the moment experiencing a tropical paradise together, was one of our goals for this vacation. We wanted to leave work and the cares of everyday life behind for these 7 days.
Swimming with the turtles was truly a NOW experience and the highlight of our second day. Even Eckhart Tolle would be proud.
Coach Colleen
Proud to be in love and proud to be learning how to be more in love every day.
True love’s gonna be like mango’s.
P.S. Total true love is more than I ever imagined. It grows every day even after 10 years. And it is as much about my internal growth and self love. Hmmm maybe I should write lessons -tips- learned in the first 10 years.
P.S.S. These entries are written as if I’m still on vacation, I’m back home and working. I had every intention of publishing entries and photos each day. Here is tip number 1 - don’t combine work and anniversary vacations. There is a time and a season for everything from the song TurnTurn Turn (remember the Byrds and their lyric source). Be with number one during together time - a 10-year anniversary vacation is one of those times.
You only have one of those and you have years to write about it. Oh yeah - it’s called being in the now. Living in the moment for that moment truly being with that wonderful person you have chosen to spend your life with. It is worth it.
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10th Years Together – Celebrating Our Anniversary in Hawaii
By Coach Colleen | May 11, 2009
Happy Anniversary to ME and MY TRUE LOVE
We are blessed by wonderful friends. And, I want to say thank you to Terry and Karin for sharing their ocean view timeshare with us. Thank you to Linda and Mike for gifting us a companion airline ticket. And, thanks to Jeri and Susan for the loan of gear and Maureen and her husband for the gift of two nights in Kona. Plus LeAnn, Rick and many others for tips on where to go and what to do.
After a 5 hour flight, a quick dip in the warm part of the Pacific Ocean and a 2 hour drive, we have finally arrived at our anniversary hideaway on the Big Island of Hawaii. We pulled in just as the office was closing and the sun was going down. We grabbed our key, stashed our gear, marveled at our ocean view and jumped back into the car to make sure we reached the nearest grocery store 6 miles away before it closed at 7pm.
Wired and excited, we searched through South Point’s six-isle mega store. South Point, you see, is the southern tip of the Big Island and is the southern-most tip of the United States. It is the remote part of Hawaii boasting of few tourists and even fewer tour amenities. This is exactly where we want to spend our 10 year anniversary.
Once back at our Anniversary Hideaway, groceries in hand, we actually stopped to smell Hawaii – plumeria – so good, so Hawaii. 
Groceries put away, we finally take a second long breath and sit on our deck drinking in the intoxicating crashing of waves on pure black lava.
Our relationship milestone, 10-year anniversary celebration vacation has begun….
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Sex IS Good for You
By Coach Colleen | April 6, 2009
Hi Ladies,
I want to give you a resource that is frank and funny at times.
It is on Oprah’s website. Dr. Laura Berman tells all!
Here is a great place to start - sex is good for your cardio vascular system.
There are several short videos. You do have to watch a little commercial, but it’s worth it.
Coach Colleen
Find True Love… by Finding Yourself First with the Total True Love self-discovery system.
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Why Do We Ignore True Love?
By Coach Colleen | April 1, 2009
Hi there,
We all have a true love pattern within us. It is perfect for us. It is personal to us. Yet, we often ignore it.
We succumb to our humanness of using society’s pattern for true love, TV’s pattern for true love, Movie’s pattern for true love. We do this at the expense of our own true love pattern and our own happiness.
But, it doesn’t have to be so.
You can remove those ‘outsider’ patterns of true love. You can remove that second hand learning and discover your true love pattern.
By releasing your attachment to what ‘should’ be because someone else says that’s what should be you create space within yourself for self-discovery.
Love in imaginably unimaginable
Love is one of those concepts that grows within itself within you. Love is a mind-bender, and we try to define it using our mind. We create ‘The List.’ You know the list that set of characteristics that you want in your true love.
Love is imaginably unimaginable and is best imagined by your using your heart and your head. It takes both. What represents true love for you?
Is it a rainbow that is always there after a rain? Or, popcorn that is fresh, buttery and fun?
Imagine… Accept … Expect… And Find True Love
Coach Colleen
Author of the Total True Love System – A guidebook for Imagineering and finding your true love
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Find True Love by Finding Your Personal True Love Pattern
By Coach Colleen | March 31, 2009
Hi,
There exists within you a pattern for true love. By true love I mean the love within yourself, the love you have for others and, yes, you true love soul mate.
The easiest way to find your true love mate is to discover your personal true love pattern. I call this your irresistible definition of true love. I’m not talking about definition in terms of words but in terms of symbols.
Symbols bridge the gap between your right and left brains and your limbic brain and your neocortex, your head and your heart. Symbols are the language of love – a heart, roses, lips or a couple walking on the beach.
Symbols work because they transport us out of our daily routine, our daily reality, our daily limitations and introduce us to the world of our imagination where we transcend our daily limitations and take an inner journey into our true love patterning.
Love is an inside job. And, once you discover your true love pattern you will have much more success in all aspects of your daily life including finding your true love.
Coach Colleen
Find true love by finding your true love pattern using the Total True Love system.
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If At First You Don’t Succeed, Try Again … Especially Love
By Coach Colleen | March 24, 2009
Hi,
Today - Try one thing again. See what happens.
So far I have two NO’s to my big question. Today, I’m asking a third time.
Why? Because persistence pays off. Mary Manin Morrissey said in a seminar, and I’d heard it many times before, it takes seven (7) times for people to really hear us, for us to really hear them.
We are busy and if we paid attention to everyone who ever told us an idea, we would we hopelessly overwhelmed. So, one way we as humans finally pay attention to others after they have spent their energy being persistent. It shows us that they are in fact serious and willing to put in their time.
Today, I’m make call number three (3). And, I’ll try again, and again, and again.
Not giving up is a key to success in getting what you want. It is a key characteristic in CEO’s, top sales people, any one who suceeds in anything - especially love.
Be persistent in discovering what is by it’s very nature ‘imaginably unimaginable.’ Discover what love, true lasting love with yourself and your soulmate means to you. It is a simple step, but takes an investment of your time and energy.
Be persistent, you are worth it.
Know that the universe interprets itself through you, through your actions, your visions, your very being as you are in relationship with yourself, your circle of friends, your circle of co-workers and the rest of us on this planet.
Your energy is important to me. Don’t give up. Keep the faith. Believe.
Imagine… Accept…Expect… And Find True Love
Coach Colleen
Find true love by finding yourself first with the self-discovery program called The Total True Love System
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Imagine, accept, expect and … find true love
By Coach Colleen | March 17, 2009
Good day,
I asked and I have not yet got what I asked for.
Do I give up? Get mad? Dispair? Say, poor me! Or, see it really doesn’t work!
I’ve done all of those and have learned over the years that none of those options are beneficial.
Blaming and presenting myself as a victim has, I will admit, got me some sympathy.
What work?
Well, what works for me is also the basis of my Total True Love system - it is Imagineering.
It’s about seeing what you want to happen and sticking with the vision. Here is a story about sticking with the vision that is about getting the seemingly impossible.
I rented an office building for 10 years. From before I signed the original lease, I was asking the owner to sell me the property. He said no, and no, and no, and no and, guess what no!
Did that stop me? NO! In my 9th year of leasing the building, he came to me and said YES I’ll sell you the building. He was asking for $1.7 million dollars which was as good as a NO to me. I still wanted the building and decided not to give up.
I visualized my self signing the purchase-sale agreement not for his price but for mine.
Then I had to determine what my price was. I did a breakeven analysis and presented the breakeven number to the ower as the price I could pay. That price was over 1/2 million less than his asking price - a full $600,000 less than his asking price.
Guess what he said?
NO!
Did I give up? NO!
I imagined myself signing that buy-sell agreement. I had a photo of the building on my wall. I love that building.
My first incounter with the building was the year before I first leased it. I fell in love with it the first time I saw a for lease sign. I called but it was already taken. I kept thinking and dreaming about that building. One year later, I saw the for lease sign go up. I puller over on the side of the street and called that very moment. I moved in 1 month later.
I imagineered myself and my business in that space. I imagineered myself sitting at my desk watching the ships anchored in Elliott Bay with the Seattle waterfront in the background.
Several months after my sound-business offer from my position, the owner called and said …
YES!
I have owned that property for several years now. I still love it.
I so respect the previous owner for what he accomplished in his life and what he taught me about decision making. And, I am now in a new Imagineering stage.
Eventually, I will sell that property to a developer. The owners wish for me is that I make as much on the property as he did. He sold it for three times what he paid for it. I am imagineering another buy-sell agreement for $3.3 million. My delight would be that one of my tenants, who are wonderful women, purchase it. Maybe they will do a co-op and buy it.
Imagineering is the key to what’s next. Imagineering is the key to creating a life that you want to live.
At times, imagineering is hard because it is easier to go back to what we know - our comfort zone.
But, imagineering is about claiming what is possible for you. It is about creating miracles in your life.
My owning that building (The WestBay Professional Building) is a miracle that took me 11 years to achieve. It was worth waiting.
Miracles happen everyday. Some take 11 years, some a lifetime, some a few moments - the teenager who cleans their room just because. Miracles can happen to you - you do not have to be a Saint. You just have to
imagine, accept, expect and … you will find a miracle in your life.
I believe in miracles, and I belive in you.
Coach Colleen
Imagine, accept, expect and find true love with the incredible Total True Love imagineering system
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Ask and it is given… Today I am asking
By Coach Colleen | March 12, 2009
Hello,
In a few hours I’m going to ask for what I want.
The question is ‘Will I get it?’
I do not know. Do I care, yes on one level I do care. Yet on another I do not.
What is so important here is that I believe enough in myself to ask.
The way I live my life is that you can’t win unless you play. Asking is playing the game.
There are several possible outcomes. Using the analogy of baseball, I could:
- strike out
- hit a pop fly and be out
- hit a single, double or even a triple
- hit the ball and be thrown out at one of the bases or tagged out as I’m running
- walk
- hit an in the park home run
- hit an out of the park home run
- the home run could even be a grand slam
What is possible? All of them.
One of my fondest memories from my youth is hitting a grand slam home run, under the lights, in a allstar game. I can still hear my mom say that I had the BIGGEST grin on my face as I rounded third base.
I am a grand slam hitter! I know that about myself.
I’ve also struck out a few times, but that is not who I am.
I am a grand slam hitter and that is how I approach life.
So today, I’m going for a grand slam. Today I am asking for what I want.
If I don’t ask, I’m the one who loses the opportunity to declare who I am - a grand slam hitter.
Each and every one of us has a grand slam in their life. It may not be on the softball field, but you have one.
Please, tell me your moment.
I’ll let you know what happens in my game of life.
Coach Colleen
Find True Love… Find Yourself First with the Total True Love System for developing your self-awareness and thinking about what true love means to you.
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Finding True Love - My Ticket to A Better Life
By Coach Colleen | March 9, 2009
Hi,
My ticket to a better life.
And, I’m not talking about making money here.
What I have found in my life is that I teach what I need to learn. Now that may sound funny to you, but it makes so much sense to me.
I am always actively working on being a better person. I’m a huge student of self-awareness and personal authority. Discovering how I can increase my self-awareness and personal authority without becoming arrogant or cocky or stuck up?
I discover something that works for me (or for others) and I share it with you. This is my passion - to we a wayshower. To provide one roadmap with great directions.
I came from a family that didn’t do directions. I had to learn on my own - no wonder I started and ran my own technical writing business for 18 years.
So, everything I do and write around Finding True Love is an outpouring of my own personal learning - and learning makes me, in my value system, a better person.
Thank you for helping me be a better me.
Interacting with all of you brings me such joy.
I came from a family that was more serious than fun. We didn’t laugh a lot as a family.
I did a video the other day and noticed that I didn’t naturally smile. I want to naturally smile. I’m going to have to go on a facial exercise program.
I am smiling now as I am conversing with you. You are my facial exercise program. You are part of my personal total true love program.
Feel free to tell me a joke, send a funny note, tell me a funny story or a heart warming one.
This might sound silly to you, but I love all of you. It’s not romantic love, but that kind of ‘I respect you as a whole and complete human being that has a ton to offer the world’ love.
And, my heart is filling up and overflowing like and endless waterfall.
Thanks for being you,
Coach Colleen
Find true love … find yourself first with the totally awesome Total True Love System - then go out and date.
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Relationship Advice for Men
By Coach Colleen | February 28, 2009
Hello,
Sit back and imagine a young woman in her early twenties. New in town, she had no clue how to meet people. She had answered an ad in the local paper for a housemate. He was a friendy guy in his early 30’s who seemed like he was going to be fun to be around, so she moved in.
Turns out he was either working or out most nights. She hardly got to know him the entire time she lived there.
Lonelier by the second
Growing lonelier by the second, she grabbed her novel and went to the local Denny’s Restruarnt to be around people and for an endless cup of coffee. And, that is where it all started.
She was NOT the only lonely person in San Diego.
You see this young woman was me. I was painfully shy and, coming from a very small midwest town, I did not have a clue where to meet people in a big city. Drinking coffee and reading was safe for me, and I became a regular.
I was not the only lonely person in San Diego. Many showed up at that same Denny’s every night like I did. Who showed up were men in their late 30’s to 50’s who were having marital problems or were divorced.
My career as in relationship counseling started at Denny’s in San Diego.
Thanks guys…
I’d like to thank my absent housemate and the guys at the counter at all the Denny’s Restruarants for leading me towards my life’s work - helping strong guys who find their inner voice. I’ve been counseling or coaching men about finding their inner knowing and inner voice ever since.
I”m realizing that I have focused on women, but I am also really good at coaching me.
Coach Colleen
Guys, you can find true love by finding your inner voice - your inner self.
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