I am so lonely, I am ready to take any man who show interest.
By Coach Colleen | January 8, 2009
Hello,
Here is a question that makes me sad every time I see it.
I am so lonely, I am ready to take anybody. Loneliness is the bane of the earth in my opinion. I hated being lonely. And, you know what, I was lonely in a couple of my previous relationships. Why because they were not fulfilling to me.
I will admit that I was not happy with myself and was looking for someone else to complete me. Wrong approach.
Go out and have a good time, but please don’t settle for less than you deserve.
Often, women do because they can’t visualize anything better. Their past is full of heartache, their parents marriage was not that great, TV is aweful, and the movies paint an unrealistic picture.
Discover what love means to you first. Discover what makes your heart sing for more than the few moments of sexual pleasure. Do rainbows make your heart sing? What would your life be like if you were a rainbow? Answer that question and see where that leads you.
Fill in the blank with another true love metaphor. What would your life be like if you were a dolphin?
It wouldn’t be slaving in the kitchen while some guy watches football. He got what he wanted - a mother to cook and clean up after him. Is that what you want?
NO, do not settle. Keep looking. Get help. Call a coach. Join a group, find a hobby. Do something that makes you happy. Then, you won’t be so lonely.
Coach Colleen
Find total true love - the kind of love you deserve - Discover your metaphor for love with the Total True Love system.
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A friends teleseminar on weight loss
By Coach Colleen | January 7, 2009
Hi there,
I know that a few will have losing weight as a New Year’s Resolution. If so, you might want to check out my friends free teleseminar tonight.
Her name is Dr. Alexandra Gayak. She is a naturopath by training and an all around good person. Here is the information:
Here’s the call info:
Date: January 7, 2009
Time: 6pm Pacific Time
Number to call: 218-844-8230
Access code: 688818#
Or you can go to her website: http://www.scienceofbeingwell.net
I’m working out at that time, so let me know what you think.
Coach Colleen
Find true love. Yes, it is possible for you.
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Looks Find True Love? What?
By Coach Colleen | January 7, 2009
Hello again,
I’m going to tell a story on myself as an illustration of a point I am not sure I like, but it is life as we know it. So here goes.
Years ago, you would only see me in blue jeans, a flannel shirt and hiking boots. Makeup? Never, I was a purist.
And, just so you know, I rarely dated.
Was it because I never wore makeup? Well, yes and no. I did not do the ‘girly’ things that my younger sisters did. I was one of those tomboys who rebelled against society’s version of a good woman - size 2. I wasn’t a size two when I was in 8th grade and I never was going to be. Inside I was mad, hurt and a little ashamed. So, I couldn’t join the size 2 club, so I rebelled.
Is that why I didn’t get many dates? My answer to that question is absolutely.
Now, that brings up another question - were those the kinds of dates I wanted. The answer is NO and YES. I was rebelling so no I didn’t want to attract dates who wanted me because of how I looked. And, yes, I did want to go out. I was jealous of my friends, but couldn’t bring myself to change.
It took me doing media appearances to finally learn how to properly put on makeup for my specific face. My very fashionable younger sister stopped in her tracks and looked at my eyes the first time she saw me.
Once I got out of my ‘rebellion’ shell, I could learn to be me and wear makeup. I learned that the cloths didn’t make the woman, but they did make her look good.
If you are struggling, so to a makeup shop and have a trained makeup artist show you what to do based on your parameters not hers. Don’t go to the mall and get a makeover, go to a speciality shop. They do it for free. Well, I did buy a lot of makeup, but my photo shoots where great. I have good skin and it DOES look better under makeup.
That’s my tip for today. And, all that being said, true love is an inside job.
Coach Colleen
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He’s Perfect, BUT Married
By Coach Colleen | January 6, 2009
Hello,
What do you do when you find the guy who appears to be everything you ever wanted. He meets everything you have put down on your wish list. GET EXCITED!!!!! Yes, I would.
Then, you find out he’s married. Promises to leave his wife, but doesn’t make any concrete moves in that direction. You are stuck wondering what to do - run like crazy or hang in there and be supportive.
My take is two pronged. First, be supportive of yourself forget about being supportive of him. He is responsible for himself.
But, you say, he’s perfect! NOT! is my answer. He is married.
Second, don’t run like crazy, it’s not dignified. Turn on your heels and make a direct line, do not stop, to the exit door.
If he really cares, he’ll get his act together and come and find you. Tell him NOT to come back until he is emotionally, physically, spiritually, and legally available.
Now, as for you, you are worth the best. You are a good woman with a good heart. You do NOT have to settle for waiting and hoping.
Get rid of the list! Why? Because you will never be able to think of all the contingencies and you’ll be left wondering what to do.
Love is not a head thing and it’s more than a heart thing. Marry your head and your heart and discover your irresistible definition of true love. Then, you’ll get the kind of love you deserve - the good kind, the loyal, honest, caring and loving kind of love that you DO deserve.
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
Total True Love System - a 5-step method for getting the love you deserve.
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New Year’s Resolutions: How To Keep Them
By Coach Colleen | January 2, 2009
Hello and Happy New Year,
Have you ever in all ernestness created a New Year’s Resolution and abandoned it within a few weeks? Well, I have.
Because I learn by doing, I’ve created a very physical way to keep my New Year’s Resolutions. If I just think them in my head, that’s where they stay. I’ve combined ideas from very different sources to make this process one that works for me.
It works for me
It works for me and I hope it works for you too. I’m already using it to get in good enough condition to ‘comfortably’ do a two-week trek in Africa in September.
Step 1. Take a blank sheet of paper. Fold it in half the long way.
Step 2. Open the page up and write your resolution on the top of each side of the fold.
Step 3. On the left side underneath your resolution, write your name and the date. On the right side underneath your resolution, write the word ‘Universe’ and the date.
Step 4. Turn the paper over and write your resolution at the top, center of the page.
Step 5. Break down your resolution into the main steps you will have to accomplish to achieve your resolution. If these steps seem daunting, you can create sub-steps or tasks.
Use the paper however you like – listing or mind mapping. It’s just a worksheet, so do what works for you.
Step 6. Look at each step or sub-step and decide if it belongs to you or to the Universe. Transfer each step from your worksheet to either your side or the Universe’s side on the front of your paper.
One way to decide where to put it is to notice if it’s a big deal step or something you’ve tried before and did not succeed at. If you need to break it down into smaller tasks to make it manageable, go ahead. Sometimes, no matter how small I make each task it still seems so overwhelming that I don’t even know where to begin. These I give to the universe. I know I need help when I don’t know how to do it.
If you know the Serenity Prayer (included at the end), put the things you cannot change on the Universe’s side and the things you can on yours.
Here’s an example from my list from January 2006. Most I’ve accomplished. Concrete steps like buying healthy food, I list under my side. Actually wanting to eat healthy food rather than fast food, I put under the Universe’s side. Here’s a peak at my list:
LEFT SIDE
Get in good enough condition to comfortably do a 2-week trek in AfricaColleen
1/03/06
- I always have healthy food in the house and with me.
- I get my orthotics redone
- I take the T-Th Pilates classRIGHT SIDE
Get in good enough condition to comfortably do a 2-week trek in Africa.Universe
1/3/06
-I WANT to workout.
-I WANT to eat according to the food plan that will work for me.
-I manage my cravings without emotional hardship
See the results as of 1/2/09 at the end.
Step 7. Now it’s time to acknowledge what is yours to do and release what is the Universe’s to do for you. You do that by tearing or cutting your paper along the center fold. I so like the physical part of this process.
Step 8. Put the part you are going to do in a convenient place so you can refer to it as you like. Put the Universe’s part in a container (an envelop works great) and put it in a safe, out-of-the-way place.
Do not refer to it or take it back. You’ve given it to the Universe, to handle.
Step 9. It’s okay to refine your list. If you realize that you kept too much on your side of the Resolution List (which often happens), you can chose to place it with the Universe by writing the step you want the Universe to take care of on a piece of paper and placing it with your original Resolution List.
Don’t take it back
If you are tempted to take back a task you assigned to the Universe’s side, don’t.
If a task or item on your Universe List does not come to fruition within a reasonable period of time, it often indicates that you haven’t totally and completely let go of that particular one. You didn’t really give it to the Universe.
Sometimes, I would have sworn, I’d given a step to the Universe only to realize that I had put some conditions on it. Remember, I like physical processes to help me embody my thoughts. So, I’ve actually taken scissors (or mimicked scissors with my hand) and cut the imaginary, invisible strings as a symbol to myself and the Universe that I’ve let go and am trusting in the Universe.
Another thought that comes up for me is that I didn’t do my side. If this happens to you, review your side of your Resolution List and give more of the responsibility to the Universe. In this way you are actually allowing the Universe to be ‘on your side.’
How did it work for you? Got a good story to share?
This is an incredibly powerful technique. I would love to hear how it works for you. You can send me your stories.
Thanks and credits
Thanks to ‘Ask and It is Given’ for the two-list technique and to the clarity of the Serenity Prayer written by Reinhold Neibuhr’s in 1926. I’ve included a modified portion of the Serenity Prayer for those who may not know it.
GOD, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
THE RESULTS as of 1/2/09
- I went to Africa and had a great time and was phyically able to easily hike up hill to the elephant salt caves. I as far up and into the caves as you could go. (It was during the day when the elephants were not around, but out guides kept looking around.)
- I have been working out 2 times a week for over a year.
- I did get new orthotics which is really helping my softball knees.
- I took pilates for several months and discovered it was not for me.
- I’m eating healthy. Last night I had fresh greens, squash and chicken. What’s even better, I enjoyed it.
- I’m still asking the Universe to keep helping with emotional cravings.
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
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Tips: Demand for dating and adult personals on the rise!
By Coach Colleen | December 29, 2008
Hi there,
According to Rob Eardley, DIY-Dating.com people are looking for ways to have fun while spending less money and not go out as much. Online dating sites will flourish. Rob says
Online personals sites offer value for money, fun, excitement, escapism and sense of community so it is easy to see why the appeal still grows during tougher times.
Here is my number one tip. Okay, I have a a few.
1. Approach online dating with a sense of adventure and not as a test of your personal worth.
2. Be open and honest (appropriately).
3. Don’t expect miracles and don’t be disappointed if you don’t find a match within 24 hours.
4. Be patient.
AND THIS ONE IS THE KEY TO THE QUEENDOM
5. Know what you want for yourself. Don’t just go shopping and expect to find your one and only.
When you know what YOU want in a relationship, you’ll know when you’ve found it. And, when you haven’t.
Remember, true love starts inside of you.
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
At last a science based system that combines your thinking and feeling brains (thoughts and emotions) to attract YOUR true love.
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Dec. 25th
By Coach Colleen | December 25, 2008
Happy Holidays everyone
Coach Colleen
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True Love’s Nightmare… Does it make for good TV-Mama’s Boys?
By Coach Colleen | December 16, 2008
Hello,
Here might just be the top ‘must-see’ TV show of all time. Why? So you can learn what NOT to do.
Here is the exact words form the casting call for this newest reality TV show.
*Do you worship and adore your mother?
*Would you put your mother before your partner/spouse?
*Are you feeling 2nd best to his mother in your relationship?NATIONAL TALK SHOW IS BOOKING MAMA’S BOYS & THEIR FAMILIES.
We are looking for mama’s boys, their partners and mamas to share their stories. Extremely interested in the dynamics of your relationships. If this fits you please reply with a brief description of your story, daytime contact information and a recent photo if possible.
I’ve looked around for a link to the show but so far nothing but this. Hmmm… does this mean the producers aren’t too sure if they want to spend the money on it?
This might just be the worst nightmare for any woman. Your boyfriend’s mother is picking you ‘or not.’ This takes approval seeking to a new level.
Let’s watch together… and then talk about it. It premiers tonight.
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
At last a science based system that combines your thinking and feeling brains (thoughts and emotions) to attract YOUR true love.
Learn how to invoke the Law of Attraction with such clarity that nothing can keep you from finding true love.
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Find true love… Looking Beyond The Secret
By Coach Colleen | December 15, 2008
Hello there,
If you have heard about The Law of Attraction and watched The Secret and still want to learn more then listen to one of the named presenters Dr. Michael Beckwith and Oprah Dialogue About Spirituality.
Here are the details… Jan. 7, 2009 at 3pm pst on ABC - Oprah’s Living Best Life Series.
Or, you can Register Today for a LIVE and FREE webcast on January 14th, 2009.
Here is the full schedule of where to listen/watch
YOUR SPIRITUALITY
The Oprah Winfrey Show: January 7
Oprah & Friends Radio: January 7*
Oprah.com Live Webcast: January 14, 9 p.m./8c
We all know who Oprah is, but if you haven’t experienced Dr. Michael you do not want to miss this one.
The first time I saw him, I thought he was a Holy Roller. The first time he was on Oprah I thought “He’s so subdued.” I’m wondering what he’ll be like this time. I’ve seen him in person many, many times. He’s worth listening to.
And, you can check out his new book
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
At last a science based system that combines your thinking and feeling brains (thoughts and emotions) to attract YOUR true love.
Learn how to invoke the Law of Attraction with such clarity that nothing can keep you from finding true love.
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Find True Love Affirmation: Yes, I CAN!
By Coach Colleen | December 10, 2008
Hi There…
Here is gift for you - an affirmation for finding true love. You can say once a day. Feel free to change the wording to make it more personal to you.
There is that one love that is divine in its essence, that radiates out and encompasses all. That love is not judgmental or filled with lists of ‘must do’s’ to be successful, to be accepted, to be loved. That Essence is pure – as pure as a baby’s giggle, as pure as the sky after days of rain, as pure and radiant as the star shine on a clear night.
That Essential Love that is in the sky, the rain, and the stars… is in me.
Therefore, it is only logical that I too posses that pure love that is not bound by walls or ideas or ‘must have/do/be’ lists. Right, here and right now, I release all attachment to having and doing in order to BE a trusted, respected, loved woman. I accept that I am a phenomenal person. I accept that I am loveable without doing or becoming anything or anyone else. I’m great just being ME.
I am good enough. I am smart enough. I am articulate enough. I am worthy of the self-awareness and happiness that comes with accepting myself as a valuable member of the human race.
I declare that I, even with all my imperfections, am through this affirmation touching the heart of my true love. I accept that
‘Yes, I can do it. Yes, I’m ready to find true love. Yes, I’m willing to take a chance on my happiness. Yes, I am worth love and I have a lot of love to give.’
I know that my first true love is within myself, and, right now, I give myself a little love (hug yourself). My self-love shows in my smile, my walk, and in my interactions with others. I am happy right now. I give thanks, in advance and in full faith. I am ready. I am saving you a place at my table. See you soon.
You are worth it!
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
At last a science based system that combines your thinking and feeling brains (thoughts and emotions) to attract YOUR true love.
Learn how to invoke the Law of Attraction with such clarity that nothing can keep you from finding true love.
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