Find True Love: An Experiment in Giving
By Coach Colleen | December 1, 2008
Hi There,
You can stop counting! Thanksgiving Day is over in the US. Thank goodness I’m not being constantly reminded to be thankful for what I have… Hmmm….
Is Thanksgiving just a day or a way of being in the world or just a good practice to calm yourself down before you go to sleep?
Between now and the end of the year, I’m going to try a very real ‘giving thanks’ experiment. I am going to give away 50% of the income I receive from writing between now and the end of the year.
What! My mind is screaming at me!
Immediately after writing this, my mind was flooded with what if’s: What if I get a windfall? … What if I get book deal and a big advance? Is this blog I’m writing count and how do I define which income results from that? From my Hubpages writings? My Squidoo Lense writing? My website?
Word are how I communicate! ARG! This is becoming too hard!
Maybe I SHOULD just give 50% of everything!
Stop, I say to myself. Last night I decided to give 50% of the income I receive from coaching people in their resume process. I had established a rule – on the resume coaching-writing income. But, that’s not what I wrote down.
I had made a decision. Yet, today I questioned myself. Am I doing enough? Should I do more? Shouldn’t I be doing more? Am I being petty and stingy by only including the resume coaching-writing income?
The answer is NO.
My mind went a million places because in my first ‘written’ statement of my decision, I did not write what I had decided. I left it open ended – all my writing. I didn’t stay true to the principle of my experiment – what I was giving on. The result was confusion? And in this case confusion is a sign post saying ‘danger ahead.’
Here’s what I mean by that. Several years ago I wrote a children’s book and sent it to a few publishers. What if I unexpectedly receive a $40,000 cash advance for this book on December 31st?
Would I give away $20,000?
Being true to my original experiment, no. But, being true to the letter of what I wrote, yes I would be giving away $20,000.
What a dilemma
Giving out of obligation, guilt or regret helps others but is an emotionally hard way to give. Keeping that $20,000 and feeling guilty about it is no fun either.
What to do?
Clarifiy my experiment, stick to my original definition of giving. Where is the shame in sticking to your principles? There is none. My confusion stemmed from not writing down my original intention. I mistook this confusion as I’m not doing, giving enough.
Sound familiar?
The same thing holds for finding true love. Once you discover your irresistible definition of true love, you have a personal principle, a personal rule. Then, when you are tempted by a very engaging guy, a guy who makes you feel ever so special in the moment but doesn’t fit your personal principle of the love you deserve — your irresistible definition of true love — when you find yourself in this danger area of falling for the same type of guy as before based on your hormones and not your head and your heart, you will have your own personal ‘Doesn’t Fit’ signpost.
Have fun and move on
What to do? Have a fun time and move on. Avoid the heartache and lost time of a six month, 1 year or 5 years. Avoid trying to make it work.
Be loyal to your principles. Trust your irresistible definition of true love.
A leadership professor, Robert Parsons Crosby, says ‘clarity, clarity, clarity!’
I became clear about my personal definition of true love and I moved forward and found my true love within 3 months… after 40 years of searching.
I know that I need to be clear to my principle of giving on the resume coaching-writing income. Now that I am clear and I can move forward in confidence about my ‘giving’ decision.
Between now and the end of the year, I’m going to try a very real ‘giving thanks’ experiment. Between now and the end of this year, Dec. 31, 2007, I am going to give away 50% of the net income I receive from helping clients find their true self in resume form.
Be clear within yourself, believe in yourself and be your irresistible self.
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
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p.s. If you want a resume that portrays your true love self, I can help.
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Find True Love: Giving Thanks Countdown - 0 Days and Counting
By Coach Colleen | November 27, 2008
Hi,
It is Thanksgiving Morning here in the US, but gratitude is an individual exercise.
My gratitude came early this morning when I woke up to a “I’m grateful for you kiss” from my true love. We will be celebrating 10 years together on our next anniversary.
Taking the time to actually think about someone how has been in your life for 10 years is something we often do not do. We just take them for granted.
People from all over the world read this - to everyone I suggest that you tell someone who has been in your life for at least 10 years that you love and appreciate them.
What is a better use of your time than spreading a little happiness in your world. Hmmm… I wonder what would happen to the overall happiness level of your planet?
See if you can feel a difference. Let me know.
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
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Find True Love: Giving Thanks Countdown - 1 Day and Counting
By Coach Colleen | November 26, 2008
Hello,
It is the day before Thanksgiving Day here in the United States. We as a nation take time to say thank you to each other, our country, our world and for many a thank you to their personal God.
I am working with a woman in Canada where the US Thanksgiving Day was not paramount on her mind. She doen’t get the day off or have to travel to be with loved ones or cook a big turkey. She promised to have her project to me on Thursday. I laughed because I am not working on Thursday, I’m hosting dinner. She was very gracious… and that interaction got me to thinking about what we don’t know about each other as people and as nations.
If I look beyond myself, I might ask “Does Canada have a national Day of Thanksgiving similar to ours here in the US?” Canada is my neighbor. It only takes me a couple of hours to cross into their national territory.
If you look at the spirit behind that famous quote from John Kennedy “Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country” you might say “Ask not what others know about you, but what you know about others.”
Today I give thanks for seeing beyond my own mind, my own life, my own values, my own rules, my own routine way of being in the world. I give thanks that at least for this moment, this day, I am aware of the bigger picture of life around me. I learned something new today.
About finding true love: When we are aware of more than our NORMAL way, we see different things, heard the same words differently, and maybe, just maybe, see someone who is already in our life in a new and intriguing way. This happens quite often when women release the should’s and should not’s of love and find their own way. Someone they have known and never really noticed before.
Are you seeing beyond your routine? Today, find something new and different to be gratefull for.
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
At last a science based system that combines your thinking and feeling brains (thoughts and emotions) to attract YOUR true love.
Learn how to invoke the Law of Attraction with such clarity that nothing can keep you from finding true love.
P.S. Canada has a Thanksgiving Day on the second Monday in October. Why and what Canadian’s celebrate.
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Find True Love: Giving Thanks Countdown - 4 Days and Counting
By Coach Colleen | November 25, 2008
Hi There,
Today I am grateful for Facebook connections. I just received a friend request from a high school bud. It is amazing, but I just spoke of her to someone yesterday… and today an invitation.
With coincidences like that you cannot help but believe that we are all connected on an energetic level. My friend lives in California, and I’m here in Washington state.
It’s the same energy connection you cultivate when you use my Total True Love system. And just like my high school friend example, you connect with your true love.
Who do you know in your past, maybe even from high school, that you are grateful for their being in your life?
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
At last a science based system that combines your thinking and feeling brains (thoughts and emotions) to attract YOUR true love.
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Find True Love: Giving Thanks Countdown - 4 Days and Counting
By Coach Colleen | November 24, 2008
Hello this fine Monday,
I am grateful for the Sunshine we had on Sunday. My true love and I fixed fence, picked up 5+ bags of leaves, and cleaned out in front of the shed.
We are consciously de-cluttering our lives which includes around and in the ‘don’t know what to do with it, put it in the shed’ shed. YES, it is full of all sorts of treasure that I have trouble parting with. For example, an old western saddle. I want to have a display space for it, but I just don’t. Then there is the 50 year old kids sled that would make a find yard display somewhere. Get the idea!
So here’s the thing, if you clutter your life (shed) with stuff that maybe you will one day have the perfect place for, you won’t have space for the things that you are doing in the moment. For me, I have to move the saddle quite often to get to supplies I use every month. And, sometimes, I just don’t bother. I let me current life go because it’s too hard to maneuver around a possibility.
It’s the same for your emotions, let go of the ‘perfect guy, perfect woman’ list. It just gets in your way, live in the present. If you want to know the secret - its discover what you are looking for from your inner perspective - your irresistible definition of true love. De-clutter your mind as well as your shed, or junk drawer, or closet… and find true love.
What is it that you are thankful for today?
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
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Find True Love: Giving Thanks Countdown - 6 Days and Counting
By Coach Colleen | November 22, 2008
Hello,
The day is almost over and I am anxious to tell you what I am grateful for today. It’s a big one too.
I’m grateful for the opportunity to serve my spiritual community - Genesis Global.
I was asked to join the Board of Trustees. After a bit of thinking it over, I decided to say yes.
What an opportunity for me to practice spiritual principles in a group of like-minded individuals. I will learn a lot from them.
I starting to learn more about financial management for a non-profit organization. And, people are coming out of the wood work to help. For that, I am also grateful.
I’m cultivating deeper friendships and a higher degree of commitment - things I crave because I do much of my work alone.
It seems the right things show up at the right time.
What is showing up in your life today that you are grateful for?
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
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Find True Love: Giving Thanks Countdown - 7 Days and Counting
By Coach Colleen | November 21, 2008
Hi There,
Today I give thanks for my business partner Jon.
Where I see confusion, he sees self-expression.
Where I see self-lack, he sees opportunity and limitless possibilities.
You can see why I am grateful.
So rather than being in overwhelm and putting out negative business energy, I radiate optimism.
I get to share my gifts and gracefully let Jon is sharing his.
Positive, optimism is very attract for a business as well as an individual.
What is it that you are thankful for today?
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
At last a science based system that combines your thinking and feeling brains (thoughts and emotions) to attract YOUR true love.
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Find True Love: Giving Thanks Countdown - 8 Days and Counting
By Coach Colleen | November 20, 2008
Hello again,
I’m sitting at the Easy Street Café. What a way to start my day – on Easy Street.
And, for that I am grateful. I sit in a booth, with music playing, being served by breakfast and an endless cut of very good coffee. I am really thankful that they completely and totally handle the dirty dishes.
Gratitude is very flattering. Thinking about what you are grateful for, even when times are a little low, helps you focus on what you have … what is going right … what is working.
Okay, you say that’s good and all but my life is hard right now. I will not argue on that point. All I will say is that no matter what your situation, giving thanks impels you into a positive energy space.
Answer me this: When you walk into a room, who is more appealing the person who is radiating a positive energy or the person who is radiating a negative energy.
Most of the time all of us will say ‘the person who is radiating positive energy.’
Part of finding true love is being a person who your true love wants to approach.
So try this the next time you are at a party and don’t know what to do, feel uncomfortable talking to strangers or just don’t know what to say.
Ask yourself “What am I grateful for about the way I look right now?”
Then, ask the next person you talk to this question
“Normally I ask people what they do for a living, but instead I would like to ask you to tell me one thing you are grateful for about this party?”
See what happens? Let me know.
I do want you to be aware that many people are most comfortable talking about what’s not right rather than seeing what’s good in the moment and being grateful.
Here is where you can make a positive contribution to our world – choose not to participate in promoting what’s wrong. All you have to do is re-ask your question.
‘And, what is one thing you are grateful for about this party?’
Sometimes people are so used to the negative that they cannot find anything positive. I like to help them out by leading with an example something like this…
I’m grateful that there are salty munchies, how about you?
Or, if you are trying to avoid salty munchies, you might say…
I’m so grateful that there is an alternative to potato chips, how about you?
This way you give them something to focus on – munchies. Or the clean floor, or the good music, the big TV, the fact that your friends have great friends, or friends that you don’t know so you can get to know new people.
I project that you will infect that party with an uplifting energy.
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
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Find True Love: Giving Thanks Countdown - Day 9 and Counting
By Coach Colleen | November 19, 2008
Hi,
In the US, we will be celebrating Thanksgiving Day in 9 days.
I invite everyone worldwide to join me in giving thanks for 1 thing each day for the next 9 days.
Today, I give thanks that I can still learn
That my ears can still hear something new or something old in a new way.
That my mind is still open to new ideas
That my heart accepts
And, that my ego (usually) gets out of my way
What are you grateful for this day?
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
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Find True Love: Focus and Give Thanks
By Coach Colleen | November 13, 2008
Hi,
I’m moving my computing system to from PC to Mac. Simple, they say. Well if you are a hardware/software whiz, maybe.
I found my true love support tech last night. His name is James and he works for Lexmark Printers. My work-horse, duplexing laser printer is so old that it comes with lifetime support. Imagine that.
Okay, but what does this have to do with true love really? Well, I was frustrated, depressed, mad, and ready to give up and go back to Window XP.
Then I thought about my finding true love process and decided to relate it to my love/hate relationship with my computer system. I knew I could make the switch and achieve my ultimate goal to have an easy seamless computing system.
I also realized that I was in foreign territory (PC to Mac transition and Mac’s system). I realized I could succumb into the frustration abyss and just go back to my PC or hold onto my vision of a wonderful computing environment using the Mac.
I decided to not give up but to move forward by making one more call to tech support. This time I was rewarded with a genuis. I called out of hope rather than desperation. James helped me, even called me back to see if I had yet purchased a different cable, and then stayed late to complete the work-around so I could print.
Knowing I could, embracing hope rather than desperation was key to my being successful. Knowing you can and embracing hope are two keys to finding true love in the world. No one loves desperation and hope is very attractive.
Focus on hope. Focus on ‘Yes, I can’ and see what miracles happens in your life.
And, give thanks. Thank you James from Lexmark.
Coach Colleen
The True Love Coach
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